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No regrets

Texas A&M cadets perform retreat

By 1st Lt Tori Hight
Air Force Public Affairs Agency

With every birthday that passes, I stop to think about the things I have done in my life. Among the most significant, I have been given the responsibility of shaping the lives and futures of young Airmen placed in my charge.

Looking back on life, no matter your age, you always linger on the things that you haven’t done yet. Some people might call that feeling regret, or consider those things missed opportunities, but I don’t really see it that way.

Six years ago, I was in my senior year of high school filling out college applications. I was pre-accepted to Texas A&M University in College Station, Texas. While messing around on the Internet one afternoon, I came across a website for the United States Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs, Colo.

After a little research, I realized the deadline for applying to my congressman for a nomination to the upcoming class was that same day. I hastily put my application together, and with a little help from the local office store, faxed my materials to be reviewed.

While the rest of the process is a blur, I’ll never forget the feelings I had stepping off the bus at USAFA to the yells and screams of upperclassmen as I scurried to the footsteps at the base of the Core Values Ramp.

The Academy would prove to be the best years of my life so far and some of the most difficult.  Instead of wearing normal clothes to school, we wore uniforms every day and marched to lunch three times a week. There was no such thing as skipping class or briefings–attendance to most events was mandatory. We had unique traditions like spirit cheese, taking the hill and a special way to open a jar of peanut butter. I was able to fly an airplane solo, while other classmates experienced skydiving or joined the honor guard. Even with all the unique opportunities, I’m sure everyone there at some point wondered what life would have been like at a “normal” school.

I was recently offered the opportunity to visit Texas A&M and speak to the Reserve Officer Training Corps cadets about my job in the military for their annual career day.

Texas A&M cadetsI drove onto the campus and right into the main parking garage, marveling the entire way at the vastness of the school and its lack of fences and guarded entry gates. Our group walked right into a building and among the students, making our way to the cadet corps area. It was surreal to take in the sights and sounds of students around us strolling to class in normal clothes, fast food lunches in hand.

The cadet area of the campus was a more familiar environment. Freshmen were hastily making their way around the quad, greeting upperclassmen and offering our group salutes and a big “howdy!” Upperclassmen quickly corrected those who were unfortunate enough not to notice our group pass by.

We toured the dormitories and watched the freshmen stand at attention, calling minutes until the evening events and reciting memorized knowledge about the military.

Speaking with the cadets was a wonderful experience. They had numerous questions about the Air Force and my career field, and they listened with enthusiasm. I remember having similar questions about the military before I joined, and it felt so strange to be on the other side of the experience. During the last session, several cadets returned to our area for further discussion. It warmed my heart to see how sincere they were about devoting their lives to the military. The visit wrapped up with an evening retreat ceremony and the cadets scrambling to dinner—another experience altogether.

As we drove away from the campus, I couldn’t help but consider: what would my life be like had I attended a “normal” school?

The answer is that it would be…different. I made some of the best friends I will ever have during my time at the Academy. I was assigned to an amazing base after graduation. The people there helped mentor me and teach me things about my job that technical school didn’t cover.  I even met my husband at that base.

It can sound so cliché, but my point is that it all came together the way it needed to. Had I not gone to USAFA, I might not have gone to my first base. If I hadn’t been stationed there, I would not be the same person able to offer the same mentorship and wisdom to my Airmen and to those cadets. 

So the next time you catch yourself wondering how things could have been different—don’t look back with regret. Every moment, every experience and every person you meet along the way helps shape you into exactly the person you are meant to be. That’s exactly what I told the cadets. The best advice I could share: make the most of the opportunities that come along.

PHOTO TOP:  The Texas A&M Air Force Reserve Officer Training Corps, Detachment 805, perform retreat April 9 at Texas A&M University. (U.S. Air Force photo by 1st Lt. Tori Hight)

PHOTO BOTTOM: The Texas A&M Air Force Reserve Officer Training Corps, Detachment 805, listen to an officer professional development presentation April 9 at Texas A&M University. (U.S. Air Force photo by 1st Lt. Tori Hight)

Through Airmen’s Eyes: Cadet candidate overcomes adversity, October 12, 2012


Cadet Candidate William Roe

By Amber Baillie
U.S. Air Force Academy Public Affairs

(This feature is part of the “Through Airmen’s Eyes” series on AF.mil. These stories focus on a single Airman, highlighting their Air Force story.)

Home has never been where 18-year old William Roe’s heart is.

A cadet candidate at the Academy’s Preparatory School, Roe hopes to one day be an officer in the Air Force and has found his key strength through his education to get where he is today: from being hungry and living out of his mother’s car at age six to being a step away from attending one of the most prestigious institutions in the nation, the Air Force Academy.

Originally from Robinson, Texas, Roe grew up in a low-income household amid continual drug abuse and hardship.

“Over the course of my life, my family hadn’t done a whole lot to contribute to society in a positive way,” Roe said. “My dad went to prison, my mom tried to overdose a handful of times, and my brothers got in a lot of trouble.”

When Roe was just an infant, his father manufactured methamphetamine in their home. The house was eventually raided, and his father was sent to jail, leaving Roe, his mother and siblings on their own.

“My mom had a really hard time supporting us,” Roe said. “I can remember times when she would put us in the car and tell us we were going somewhere, drive until we fell asleep and then we’d wake up in the car the next morning. I guess she just didn’t have the heart to tell us that we didn’t have anywhere to go.”

At age 12, Roe began work for a local landscaping company to help pay the family’s bills and set aside money for when he wanted to purchase things such as school pictures, yearbooks or field trips.

“I’m not going to say it was an enjoyable experience, but now that I’m older and not doing it anymore I’m pretty proud of it,” Roe said. “If I hadn’t gone through some of things I went through as a kid, I don’t think I would have the level of maturity and mental toughness that I have today.”

Roe said he doesn’t remember a time when his family wasn’t on food stamps, welfare or unemployment. He said there were several occasions where he and his brothers were separated from their mother and sent to live with distant relatives because they didn’t have a place to sleep.

By age 15, Roe decided to no longer live at home, often times sleeping in the locker room at his high school, staying with friends or sleeping in the car he purchased after working a full-time job for eight months.

“A lot of people when they think homeless, they think of standing on the street corner with a cardboard sign, and that wasn’t the situation at all,” Roe said. “I was always welcome to come home, but it wasn’t an environment where I could focus on my studies and not get into trouble.”

Roe’s brothers had all dropped out of school and became addicted to drugs.

“I saw my brothers get in trouble with drugs, dealing and fighting,” Roe said. “I love my brothers, but as I got older, I realized that I wanted to be better and didn’t want to follow in their footsteps.”

Roe said he didn’t always eat, especially the nights he slept in the locker room. He would skip dinner and wait until the next morning for his free breakfast at school.

“Kids would anonymously leave me food. I never felt bad accepting it because it’s nice to know whether you talk about your life or not, people are willing to look after you,” Roe said.

At age 16, Roe lived with his grandmother for a short period of time and faced further hardship when she was instantly killed in a car accident he witnessed on his way to her house.

“After the accident, I happened to be driving on the highway and recognized her truck,” Roe said. “Being the one who lived with her and being close to the accident, I had to inform everyone what had happened. It’s hard when you have to tell your mother that her mother had passed away over something so spontaneous.”

Despite not always having a home, food or family members who cared about him, Roe said he always looked toward the future and found motivation and support through individuals and activities at school.

“School was the one place I was really comfortable,” Roe said. “I had a great network of friends. I couldn’t imagine being in this position if I hadn’t gone to Robinson High School. The staff members went above and beyond to make sure I was successful and a lot of them gave me a place to stay.”

Roe was the vice president of his senior class, a leader in National Honor Society, and homecoming king. He volunteered regularly to help tutor kids.

“I made an effort to become best friends with the people that I wanted to model my life after,” Roe said. “I’ve aimed high in everything that I do so that one day, when I have my own family, I can provide for them and my kids will never have to go through the same things I went through.”

Roe also participated in sports: football, power-lifting, cross-country, track and soccer.

“I actually got recognized for doing the most sports in high school,” Roe said. “It was constructive, a huge stress reliever and helped me get my mind off my family.”

Upon high school graduation, Roe received a full-ride scholarship from Texas A&M as well as a $20,000 scholarship from the Horatio Alger Scholar Foundation. Through the foundation, Roe took a trip to Washington, D.C., and met influential figures such as Supreme Court Justice, Clarence Thomas and actor Rob Lowe.

“I was one of 104 selected from 50,000 applicants,” Roe said. “I met these incredible people and we had a formal induction ceremony inside the Supreme Court building. When the scholars walked down the aisle among all of these successful people who came from similar backgrounds as us and were successful, had respect for us and shook our hands when we walked passed them, that was the most incredible moment of my entire life. So far nothing has compared to that.”

Roe said he applied to the Academy because he appreciates the structure of the military and thinks he could use his leadership potential if he became a second lieutenant.

“The more I looked into it, the more I wanted to be a part of the Air Force,” Roe said. “I’m attracted to the wingman concept and appreciate that everyone is held to a higher standard and responsible for their actions. If they act out, they’ll be punished for it. I love that aspect.”

Although Roe wasn’t accepted into the Academy, he said he chose to spend a year at the Prep School because he knew he would receive solid preparation to lead men and women if he were to become an officer.

“There were thousands of people who competed just for a spot in the Prep School and only 240 people got in,” Roe said. “I wasn’t a recruit, my ACT scores weren’t very high but I got here on my ability to overcome adversity. I now have my own bed, get to shower every night and I don’t have to worry about my clothes not looking as nice as everyone else’s because we’re all in uniform. Every day I wake up and think about how awesome this opportunity is and I’m extremely grateful to be here.”

Roe came to Colorado Springs not knowing a single person until he stepped off the plane and was approached by a complete stranger at the airport.

“This woman approached me and started to ask me questions,” Roe said. “I didn’t want to tell her much because I didn’t know her but she proceeded to tell me that she was a sponsor for two cadets at the Academy.”

Roe said she offered him a place to stay for the night but he initially declined. He said it wasn’t until she mentioned what she was cooking for dinner that evening that made him change his mind.

“I was extremely hungry and I honestly knew I probably wouldn’t be able to eat that night because I didn’t have enough money,” Roe said. “I went home with her and the steak fajitas turned out to be terrific.”

It was then when Roe found his sponsor family: Col. Rob Widmann, retired Lt. Col. Ida Widmann and their two sons, Robert and Alex.

“Not only was I able to eat that night but I was blessed enough to have met her and now I have people who are willing to look out for me,” Roe said.

Roe plays on the Prep School’s soccer team and said as much as he would love to play for the Academy someday, only time will tell.

“I wanted to play soccer my whole life and can recall being seven, eight and nine years old asking if I could join the team and my parents would never let me,” Roe said. “That’s why I only played in high school. I would definitely like to join the track team at the Academy and would probably participate in long jump, high jump or triple jump.”

Roe said it will be the hardest yet most fantastic decision of his life when he is forced to choose whether to pursue the Academy or attend Texas A&M at the end of the year.

Photo: Cadet Candidate William Roe said he is determined to make it work at the Academy. “I’ve been given this great opportunity,” the Air Force Academy Preparatory School student said Oct. 3, 2012. “If I mess up, I have nothing.” (U.S. Air Force photo by Carol Lawrence)